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Moving Day

this shirt
once held meaning

perhaps i wore it on a trip
or a night when someone
set teeth into my heart

and now
wether a size too small or too large
torn or stained
i feel compelled to keep.

caught here in the hangers of my closet

my hear of losing ground
tokens that anchor me.

misplaced by sentimentality
things become the thieves of time
no place to hold what I can’t keep

each armload to the truck
a house for memories.

Kushog Lake Windy Pine

Dear Haliburton…

Kushog Lake Windy PineI love you.  and I hate you.  And some days I’m totally indifferent.  Every street here has now formed a story for me.  It’s never been a secret, my heart here has ached.  At times, lonely and isolated, I have had to question every step.  I have left you many times and yet always come back.  But I’m always questioning.  Always wondering if I am going backwards or forwards.  There are many days I sit with a map and think…”just anywhere…just go”.  And there were days when I sat somewhere else and wanted only to be back.  rolling hills and familiar smiles.

I can easily say that I have been hurt here.  I have spent more time alone than is ever really healthy and I have soured.  I have felt the last few years pass as if they were minutes and cried to get them back.  But here, there has also been joy.  And the two, the good and the bad, are all anybody can ever expect or ask for.

Here I found love.  There is a little space on Kushog Lake.  When I need to think of home.  When I need to feel grounded, that is where my mind goes.  I have memorized every board of the floor of that cabin, every smell of that forest, every crisp autumn morning that I was blessed to experience.  Here I found love.  Community.  Separated at times by distance or schedules or just plain getting-by-ness, it was community nonetheless. Creative, eclectic and unique.  Here I found love.  The writer in me met the writer in others.  Every second Saturday, if I could make it, I had the joy of being welcomed with such warmth into the greatest little writer’s circle.  These moments, wrapped in story and warm tea and friendship, have easily been one of the highlights of my highland experience.

And here I found love.  Two arms to hold me and a keeper for my heart.  Someone to help build home when it seems at times I am always aimed at tearing it down.  Someone who created a new map of the highlands for me.  Love.

So it is true…for the fourth time in less than 2 years…and likely the 30th times in 32 years…I am on the road again.  It is hard sometimes, just to make the ends meet.  So Monday we will go, to work and oh dear Haliburton, I hope also to play.  We will be back often, for it seems, love or hate, we are family now.



p.s wish me luck!

The Sunset on Kushog Lake

The Doorstep

The Sunset on Kushog LakeIt’s easy to be nervous, distracted, anxious when sitting on the doorstep of some kind of change.  I’ve always lived uneasy with change, and yet oddly craving adventure and new experiences.  In 32 years I have lived in an extraordinary number of places and I find each move, rather than getting easier, becomes more of a struggle.  Physically it is obviously exhausting, but emotionally  the toll is hidden and much more profound.  You can see now that it takes me much longer to hang a few pictures.  I’m efficient when I move.  I have the boxes unpacked, the kitchen ready for cooking and all the essentials organized in a matter of hours.  Typically I have the whole thing done and over with in a day or two.  Yet the little things, those steps you take to truly make some empty or new space feel like home, those steps take longer.  I hesitate to make a new home.  I hesitate to truly claim a space as my own.

So here I am on the doorstep again.

As much as I love the craftiness of making a home, after 3 months I still haven’t connected to the new home.  The picture frames lean against the wall sitting on the floor where they were originally unpacked.  The shelves went up and the craft table given a comfy spot with plenty of beautiful natural light.  I have invited some favourite people into the new space, we have cooked beautiful meals and shared all the usual joys of time well spent together.  We have bonded and grown and loved, but the space itself feels temporary.

I am fortunate to have placed my home in the heart of someone wonderful and I take comfort in that.  While I struggle with change, dangling one foot out the door, I know I have a true home of two loving arms.  So today’s post is about gratefulness for the space that has been opened in my heart and the sweet man for which I am blessed to share all of these struggles and joys!

Dear Blayne,  you are my home.  Love, Stacy.